I was having such a crappy day. I’m literally so tired of being sick and tired. And then when I think about my upbringing and my past and the lack of protection, there was surrounding me as a child. So many adults in my life and no protection. So many adults in my life and yet some predatory people had such access to me. It’s difficult to harm children if the wrong people don’t have access to them.
I’m sick of just brushing things off in terms of my guardians as “well they did the best that they could do “. What if the adults surrounding you as a child, their “best” was so far below the essential and crucial things you need to deal with and survive this world? Eventually, that just doesn’t seem like enough anymore. I think it’s fair and healing to acknowledge that.
People will say things and want you to “get over things.” It’s very difficult to get over things when they are deleterious to your success and ability to thrive in life. in the present. Also, it is difficult for some of us to identify safe people in spaces as a result of them doing the best that they could do. It’s very difficult to move forward and have progress therapy. If you still don’t have a safe space or people.
I’ll find a way to make it through. I always do.
On this Mother’s Day celebrate the amazing mothers or mother figures you had if they deserve it.
Please hold space for those of us who don’t really have anything to celebrate for various reasons.
This is just my two cents.
Just Mai 2 Cents 