I remember when I was younger I really wanted to get married so that I’d have an excuse to change my last name. I really hated where it came from and what it stood for. Also, the generational patterns that came along with it.
My friend said to me, don’t change your name change your legacy. Those were such impactful words to hear and at the same time, very empowering. I had never thought of it like that before.
I think the fact that I made a choice not to have children was huge in changing generational patterns. Certain things definitely stopped with me in my bloodline. I’m happy that I made that decision, although an incredibly painful decision to make.
At this point in my life, I’m just trying to protect my peace, my energy, my space and have discernment to make sure there are only safe people in my inner circle. My circle is small and mighty.
I will forever miss and pray for my friend that gave me a different level of understanding of what legacy can be. She didn’t have much and always seemed to have a lot to share. She was very protective of me and the maternal figure I never had but always needed.
That’s just my two cents. 
